Tag: Psychotherapy

Getting Real About Virtual Realityês Victims


Photo by Kazemaru Zen. What does the clinical literature say about how to treat someone whose avatar was sexually abused online? To my knowledge, it doesn’t really say anything—but 20 years of reportage from online cultures suggest not only that this experience happens, but that some people experience it as quite traumatizing. Such a violation… Read more »

Chaos and Confusion All Around


Over the last several months, my family has experienced a number of major crises from a flooded apartment to a granddaughter running away to a lengthy personal illness to uncertainty of employment to decisions concerning the health and well-being of aging parents to eye surgery to ongoing long-term unemployment. It has been a period of… Read more »

Perfect Strangers: Making the Leap from Small Talk to Friendship


Photo by Karen Mardahl. It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. — Oriah Mountain Dreamer, The Invitation, 1999 I finally realized why I hate small talk. I’m a therapist. I like getting down… Read more »

Sex in Humanistic Psychology and Psychotherapy


Auguste Renoir’s “Lovers.” “Sex in humanistic psychology and psychotherapy: A community roundtable and discussion” evoked a sense of mystery within myself as I explored the thought of sexual attraction towards clients within the scope of humanistic psychology. Each member of the panel, chaired by Shawn Rubin, and consisting of Louis Hoffman, Heatherlynn Hoffman, Kristopher Lichtanski,… Read more »

The Peril is Not Mental Illness but the Polarized Mind: The Social Catastrophe That Gets Repeatedly Overlooked


There is a reason that many of the most twisted and destructive people on this planet are not seen as “mental patients.” They tend to be ordinary or even celebrated individuals—and their brains are as “normal” as the rest of us. Does this not tell us something glaring about the inadequacy of our current diagnostic… Read more »

British Invasion of Memory


Photo by United Press International. Whether you remember or anticipate, you do it now. The past is no more. The future is not yet. –Fritz Perls Watching the remaining living Beatles reunite a few weeks ago to celebrate and remember the 50th anniversary of the Beatles’ appearance on The Ed Sullivan Show on February 9,… Read more »

Waxing Existential: Eating Disorders and Meaning Making


Painting by By Maria Raquel Cochez. Long ago in my practice, I worked with a woman who was struggling with bulimia. She would binge and purge daily, a struggle that she didn’t want, but couldn’t see how she could stop. She was ashamed and demoralized. One day, I put some clay in front of her… Read more »